This is probably gonna trigger some folks. Many many years ago, I was giving a “Personal Law” Seminar to a room full of people, 30 or 40. Now that seminar is really effective at helping people to discover their most negative limiting beliefs, and that varies, of course, from person to person. So in that room I had 30-40 different personal laws to work with. And as I was going around the room, the energy was getting really super intense, with lots of tears and huge sighs of relief and joyful laughter as I worked with each person one on one to find, heal, and integrate each one’s core negative. So I was totally into it, really absorbed by the process, flowing with the energy of the room, and doing more personal law work in a single night than I would normally do in a week. And because of that, something happened. I had a major epiphany. I saw that it is all relationship. Everything, I mean. Everything is relationship. All core negatives are relationship problems. All human problems are relationship problems. All personal growth issues come down to a relationship problem. All spiritual issues are a relationship problem. Birth trauma, infancy trauma, school trauma, religion trauma, self-sabotage, death urge, repression of the feminine, parental disapproval syndrome, even past lives issues all come down to a relationship problem. That’s why forgiveness is such a powerful healer. The only way to heal a relationship is through forgiveness and the only thing that keeps a relationship unhealed is refusing to forgive. And every unhealed relationship that you choose to hold onto will manifest a negative outcome in your reality. That relationship does not have to be between you and another person; it can also be between you and yourself and between you and God–the ultimate parental and authority figure! Actually, very few people have a relationship with God. What they have is a relationship with themselves, which they then project onto God. So forgiving yourself, healing your relationship with yourself IS important, as you’ve no doubt heard. The problem is, a lot of people give lip service to that, but they don’t actually do it. They know, they’ve read in books, that you should forgive yourself and so they say the words, but deep? down deep in their bones? They don’t really believe it. It doesn’t take. And that is where ordinary human relationships come in. They give us something easier to practice with. Relationships that we know whether or not we’ve forgiven, that we can’t fool ourselves around, like we can when it comes to forgiving ourselves. So the ability to maintain basic human relationships is a key indicator of personal and even spiritual maturity. It shows that you have mastered forgiveness. If your past is littered with people you can’t forgive, people you still carry anger against and hold resentment towards, chances are your current relationships are only a matter of time away from falling apart as well. Chances are, all your relationships are equally tainted, including your relationships with money, the government, the “system”, your relationship with time, with your body, etc. etc. Everything. is. relationships. And unfortunately, it seems that a lot of people these days run away from the hard work of forgiveness by becoming personal growth teachers, or spiritual teachers, or “psychic advisors” or “healers” or whatever else. So you have people whose lives are littered with unhealed relationships giving advice to other people about how they should live. And the advice they give can even be correct, good, and useful. Because it’s always easier to see what someone else’s problem is than our own, and certainly easier to help someone else work on their shit, especially if it helps us avoid working on our own shit. But no matter how correct, good, or useful that advice may be, there is an underlying current that taints everything. Am I saying you have to be perfect to be a teacher or healer? No, absolutely not. It is perfectly fine to be a work in progress. Of course, that means that you are, in fact, working ON yourself while you work WITH your clients. Not USING your clients to AVOID working on yourself. Thing is, that work cannot be avoided forever. Sooner or later the Universe comes to call, demanding a balancing of accounts from the unhealed healer.
Sacred Breath 